Valuable Lesson

There are valuable lessons to be learned during this time of social distancing. Throughout this time I’ve seen many instances of groupthink. People responding based on what they see others do. It really shows the reality of social media and how we have become a society of imitators and pretenders. Some of us can barely tell the difference between real and fake news because we fail to take the time to do the research ourselves. We see something and we blindly follow it without trying to find out the true details. Most of the mass hysteria that we have faced has been because of this. Have we forgotten how to think for ourselves?

Dress: Max Studio via Nordstrom Rack (2019) Sandals: Zara (2019)

We have allowed the media to create panic and we have allowed that panic to be projected onto one another. Have we really taken the time to access how we really feel about what is going on? Have we stopped to think about the things that we can do to ease confusion and help make the lives of others a little less crazy during this time? Or have we have continued to project fear on to one another?

I believe that this time is best served figuring out what you really think. Not just about this pandemic but about yourself. I think what scares most of us about this time, is having to slow down and take things in. We have to actually face our own lives and thoughts without running out to some social activity to fill the void. We finally have to stop and pay attention and I don’t think that it is a bad thing. We have been forced into rooms and close spaces with ourselves and/or our loved ones. It’s time to get to know each other again, to listen, to be aware, to be in tune with what this time is teaching us. Our journeys are connected and are bigger than each of us as individuals, sometimes it takes times like these to remind us of this. To remind us of how truly important it is for us to connect, to be social and to not take each other for granted. The funny thing is we spend so much time on our phones but when our phones are the only option we find ourselves devoid of something. I pray this moment makes us clear about what is truly important in our lives.

Don’t let this time be in vain.  Are you willing to learn the lessons?

With Love,

Cree

Survivor's Remorse

I have been waiting for these moments and opportunities for a long time. And when things finally begin to unfold and take shape I begin to worry about whether I’m worthy or if I deserve to be where I am. Forget all the prayer, time and effort that I have put into this journey. It is slightly overwhelming when life begins to move in your favor. And yes there is a measure of grace to getting to this point. I do the work but God definitely sprinkles it with His “magic” and boom. And to be honest none of us ever fully deserves God’s goodness but when He provides it, our best response is to show up and get it done.

Cardigan and Skirt: Marshalls

I think what really gets me through these moments is the fact that my confidence does not come from me. I am confident in what God has placed inside of me. If I was to rely on myself alone I wouldn’t go far because I know how human and flawed I am. I know that past mistakes have been made. God-confidence helps me not to focus on where I fall short but instead, it helps me to focus on how far I have come. Trust me when opportunities that you have been praying for some to fruition you don’t always feel as good as you dream that you are. I know God laughs at me because I am always like, yes Lord I’m ready and then the moment comes and I’m like okay is this really for me. I know what I said God but are you sure about this, haha!

I’ve realized that we can really get accustomed to waiting and so it becomes our safe place. You really don’t have to show how great you are in the waiting season, you’re basically pressing, surviving and waiting. But oh when the wait is over, the realization that you are walking in the manifestation of your prayers and God’s goodness is a bit jarring. I definitely have had to stop and process it all so that I don’t talk myself out of my blessing. Like…get it together Cree this is exactly what you wanted, time to rock it out. It’s crazy how we allow ourselves to get so used to disappointment. Don’t get me wrong I am ecstatic about how things are unfolding at this moment in my life but it feels a little strange. And I don’t want you to think that you are alone for all of you out there who feel like me. We often brace for disappointment but not for the opposite. We train ourselves to be ready to be let down. I have recognized this about myself and am working on accepting and making room for good and blessings into my life.  

I am humbled that God chose me for this and thought enough of me to provide me with the myriad of opportunities in my life that have culminated at this moment. And I open my heart to receiving that there will be other great moments as well. We are just getting started. So like I said before if you are anything like me and have survived some tough moments that God has allowed you to overcome, the same bravery it took to survive use that bravery to thrive.

With Love,

Cree

Life Alert

There are experiences in our lives that remind us of the promises we’ve made to ourselves. I recently had this happen and I am grateful that God finds ways to get through the noise of life to our hearts. Coming out on the other side of this has made me understand how important it is for us to stick with our convictions and not compromise our destiny.

Blouse: Pretty Little Things Shorts: Old Boots: Nasty Gal

I would never consider myself a person that settles but sometimes we find ourselves unwittingly in situations where if we don’t remain sharp we do end up slipping into settling for less than God’s best. I know your dream seems so far beyond you, trust me I know. But the magic is in continuing to believe in the promises that God has made. Taping into the deepest parts of ourselves in these moments is what will help us cross the finish line. Even when you love Jesus as much as I do, you can find yourself falling into the trap of limitations.  There are some opportunities that are good opportunities in general but just not for you. If something is not for you it does not make it a bad thing. I think a lot of times we get sidetracked because we think that if an opportunity is not for us it will stink and be so obviously bad for us. But the enemy is cunning, he will present things that are not so bad and slightly off the mark and if we’re not careful or insightful we could easily fall for it.

My secret weapon is that I put God in everything. There is nothing that I believe that I can do without Him. So when things are presented to me, I pray! I never let pride get in the way of letting Him order and guide my steps. I don’t have this without Him. If putting God in everything is my secret weapon, remaining humble is my superpower. On my knees is where I get my wings.

When I decided on the title for this blog post, I immediately thought of the life alert commercials. The commercials where the company advertises these small alarms that aide older people who live alone when there is an emergency situation. I equate that to what happens when experiences come to remind us of our destiny, a life alert. I believe the alert lets us know when we are slightly moving out of alignment and we need that jolt back into place. I believe that it is an emergency situation when we are moving away from God’s promises instead of towards them.

Don’t feel guilty, we’re all imperfect and we all need that nudge from time to time. We all fall asleep at the wheel and get sucked into the routine. Let this serve as a notice to you to not give up if you’ve allowed your dream to fall away because it might have felt more comfortable to settle, shake it off and get back to it. I am ringing the alarm of your destiny!

With Love,

Cree

Round of Applause

I want you to stop what you are doing right now and repeat this affirmation, I AM DOPE! How long has it been since you have celebrated how far you’ve come and all that you have accomplished? It is time for you to stop in this moment and give yourself a round of applause. It’s time for you to be grateful for surviving and making it to this moment.

Jacket: ASOS; Bodysuit: H&M Pants: Thrift Shoes: Old

I think this is one of the things that has kept me going over the years is being able to reflect upon my journey. Yes, there are moments I don’t want to repeat but I am truly grateful for the lows and the triumphs because they helped me become the woman I am today. Just for the day, instead of finding all of the things that you think you need to work on or fix, stop and celebrate your wins. Our society is always focused on what’s next, how we can do it bigger, and it leads us to feel like we haven’t really accomplished anything. This then leads to feelings of emptiness because no matter how far you go, you never feel successful or like you’ve done enough. The truth is your worth is not tied to how much you have accomplished anyway. You were born worthy, remember that.

One of the things I have realized about Beyonce’(my bff in my head) is that she languishes in her wins. She never rushes to the next thing. It’s like she soaks it all in, processes it, rest and then she moves on to the next. We can learn so much from her.  Instead of you moving to the next thing, take the time to process what has happened, give yourself a pat on the back and then move forward. I promise the world will benefit from a more intentional you than a you that just puts things out there to remain relevant. Pausing, reflecting and resting are essential. We can have continuous wins with rest in between. I’ve learned on my journey that timing is everything and I have said this over and over again but we have to be in tune with the rhythm of our lives. Moving too fast or too slow can be detrimental. Remember, you don’t always have to be on. So just for today breath, release the tension and repeat after me one more time…I AM DOPE!

With Love,

Cree

Add a Little Spring

This post is inspired by the YouTuber Karen Britchick. She recently posted a new video where she showed ways to incorporate a little spring into your winter wardrobe. It was so inspiring because as you all know by now I am not fond of winter at all. So finding ways to add a dose of Spring is right up my alley. Pairing spring like prints and splashes of color with other winter essentials were a part of her recommendations and I couldn’t agree more. I thought I was the only one ready for Spring, but I will be honest, I never thought about introducing Spring into that period between seasons.

Sweater: H&M Skirt: Shein Official Boots: Steve Madden

Sometimes in fashion we are such sticklers about the seasons and what’s appropriate. But there is always that in between phase where we’re moving from one season to the next and we aren’t quite sure how to make that transition. Isn’t that such a metaphor for life. I know we’ve all had that awkward feeling of moving from one life season to another. And many of us are moving from winter seasons into our Spring aka new birth seasons. If you’re like me you know it’s coming, but what do you do and how do you prepare? I’m going to take Karen’s advice and just add a little color.

And how do you add a little color exactly? Welll, the Bible tells us to live out our faith as though the things that we desire are already a reality. This is the best way to overcome doubt when it tries to creep in. I’m not saying go out and live beyond your means but I do mean start affirming what you believe to be true about your future. Every time I see a piece of clothing that is beyond my budget I always tell myself don’t worry Cree it’s coming, we’re almost there. I use this train of thought when it comes to anything I aspire to, Cree we’re almost there. Does it mean I never get discouraged, no, but it does mean that I don’t linger in that state for long. I believe that getting to our wins has a lot to do with how we move through that in-between period. Trust me the in-between is the time period where it is so hard to not quit. And so many of us quit on the cusp of moving into our win, but please take Karen’s advice and add a little Spring to your winter, you are almost there.

With Love,

Cree

#Outofcomfortzone

Sweater: H&M Dress: ASOS Boots: Express(2018) Headband: H&M

Are you thinking of doing something new? I hope you don’t have the expectation that it is going to be easy. These are the things to expect when moving outside of your norm.

1.       You are going to feel super awkward: When you are moving in unchartered territory you will not feel totally like yourself. Your confidence will take a slight hit. But you have to remember to ride the wave, take everything in, and learn all you can.  Feeling awkward is humbling, but that is not a bad place to be in.

2.       There is a level of anxiety: There will be moments when your heart is going to beat a little faster than normal. Especially when you are like me and you have to walk into new environments. In  my recent end of the year post on IG I spoke about one of the things I was most proud of in 2019. And that was going to more events and making connections. Trust me many of those moments required a pep talk in the car right before walking in. I was full of nerves but didn’t let that stop me. Remember to let that spike in heartbeat spur you on and give you energy, not cause you to retreat.

3.       It’s exciting and scary all at the same time: The same thing that excites you about change will also be the thing that seems too big for you. I love being a big dreamer but it also scares me because I’m like is this even possible. But if God has placed that seed in your heart, He has definitely equipped you to see it through. That doesn’t mean that it’s not going to look super daunting at first.

4.       It will feel bigger than you: This is right in the same vein as number 3. The thing that I realized is that realistically it is bigger than you. The only way we can truly walk in our purpose is with God’s help. This humbles me and also gives me confidence. I know that with God all things are possible, so when I lean into Him I am at my best. Also remember that your purpose is not just about you. We are connected and when we live out our purpose we are giving someone else wings to live out there’s.

5.       It will be challenging: It is going to take fight and grit. Deciding that you are doing something new or moving in a new direction is only the first step. There is so much work that comes after the decision. Do the work and it will pay off, but you’re going to have to pay the price.

I am definitely not trying to frighten you. But I am trying to give you a realistic expectation of what change feels and looks like. So when you feel it you can move through it and past it. I think that many of us retreat from change because we think it’s supposed to be comfortable and easy. But if that was the truth, change would come easy to all of us. Don’t let social media fool you, nothing ever happens overnight. Those who truly win are open to the process of moving outside of comfort zones, no matter how awkward it feels. 

With Love,

Cree

Don't Believe the Hype

Hat: Thrift (The Drake Closet) Sweater & Skirt: H&M Boots: Steve Madden

Sooo, the 2020 hype has died down…and what does that mean for you? It really doesn’t take that long. We are barely out of January and for most of us it’s back to our routines and comfort zones. And yes I know you were expecting great things to happen basically like overnight. But I have a secret to tell you, those great things will not happen without you doing something.

God is gracious and good in all His infinite wisdom. But what He is not is a genie. God is not going to do for you what you can do for yourself. He will certainly guide your steps and provide you with wisdom if you ask, but make things appear out of thin air, no I don’t think that is His thing.  I say this all the time but you have to put in the work. Whether there is internal work to be done or external work. The work we do always has a purpose and it is never in vain. One step leads to the next and so on. And most of those steps are preparation. God will never put you out there without making sure you can handle the pressure. Caveat: If you listen to Him. If you jump out there on your own, you just might be on your own.

This post is to remind you to not get lost in the hype. Or get lost in your oversized expectations of what should have happened in this new year by now.  Girl it has only been two weeks, frustration is the enemy of your progress. Remember that baby steps lead to bigger steps. Process is a thing. Although it may seem as though these years go by in a blur, we have so much more time to go. We have to stay focused and stay the course. This year is not going to be different than any other year unless we do something different. I’ve learned that there is a rhythm to seasons of our lives. Determine what that rhythm is and flow in it. Trying to do something outside of that flow will more than likely lead to frustration.  Believe me I know from experience. This is a recent lesson learned. Receiving the vision, doesn’t mean it is going to happen tomorrow. It just means if we walk in obedience, we will certainly walk into its manifestation. I struggled so much because I was trying to move ahead of the process and the flow. The more grateful I am for my present moment and the more I flow in my spiritual rhythm the less I struggle. I’ve learned that if I work hard with my present portion it leads to the next level. My most important ask from God is always for wisdom. I trust God enough to know that He has got this. And if He has got me then He has certainly got you.

With Love,

Cree

P.S. if you need help setting up goals and getting your life in motion. Please listen to the Woman Evolve podcast dated 1/8/2020 Ready, Set, Glow! With Dr. Anita Phillips you will not be disappointed. 

I'm Over the Winter Blues

Headband: H&M; Leather Dress: H&M; Dress: ASOS; Shoes: Nasty Gal Stockings: Old

I will be honest, and I’ve said this before, winter is not my favorite season. After the holidays are over, I’m simply just over the cold weather. The warm-blooded Miami girl wants to wear short sleeves and to go outside without a jacket. But this year I am trying to embrace every season, even the cold. So this year I am going to focus on the fun of fashion and wearing boots one of my favorite things to do. And instead of hibernating at home, I’m going to put on my faux fur and get out of the house.  In my last post, I wrote about the importance of changing habits. And one of my own takeaways from writing the post was moving outside of my comfort zone and moving into new environments and new spaces. Therefore, instead of waiting for warmer weather, I’m making it happen no matter the temperature outside.

There are opportunities waiting for me that are not waiting for spring and summer and I have to be willing to go out and grab them. I’ve noticed that I created this habit of closing in on myself in wintertime. Winter is almost like the introvert’s dream but it can work to your disadvantage because it gives you an excuse not to be social. Too much alone time is not good for anyone, because you are feeding off of your own thoughts 24/7. I used to pride myself on how much time I loved to spend by myself. And yes it is cool and important to be able to enjoy time alone, I do truly like me. But in order for me to do great things this year I need to be surrounded by good energy outside of myself. I’m not allowing myself any excuses.

So if you are anything like me, join me on this journey, a journey of recreating my life. I realized in this season that there were real changes that I needed to make about my approach to life and leave behind the things that were not serving my growth or my ability to grow. And that definitely starts with me. I’m not interested in blaming anyone or anything. I have to be proactive in creating positive environments and creating space for those environments in my life. If I had a theme for 2020 it would be creating space for good. Even in winter, good things can happen. Although trees look bare there are things that are happening just beneath the surface. There is never a time that God is not working in our lives and I wanted to make sure I wasn’t giving Him a hard time. God is not interested in coddling us or keeping us in situations that make us comfortable. I told God that this year, yes I want great things to happen but I want to be challenged so I can become better. We need a little discomfort and those awkward moments from time to time.

If you can relate, will you join me? Join me on this new voyage through the winter months. No, winter may never be my favorite time of year but that does not mean I cannot take my own advice and make the most of it.

With Love,

Cree

Creating New Life Habits

Hat: Thrift (Drake Closet) Jacket: Thrift Bodysuit: H&M Pants: H&M Shoes: Steve Madden

As we move into the new year and the new decade, I am over the moon excited but also very thoughtful. Instead of making resolutions, I thought it important to make decisions about what type of life habits I want to cement. I think that it is important that we create lifestyle habits that will sustain past the new year. How we frame these ideas and habits is key. If we only think of them as resolutions we may just write them off. But lifestyle changes are challenging and things that we want to carry with us far into the future.

Also for me creating habits is directly correlated to making my dreams/passions a reality. We are not going to reach our goals just by virtue of writing them down or creating vision boards. The way we make them a reality is by the habits we put into action. I’m bringing this up again because it is really important to me how I frame this idea. I want us to be equipped to sustain the fabulous futures that we aspire too. The definition of a habit is a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up (Google dictionary). We often focus on ridding ourselves of bad habits but I think in this new year we need to put that focus on creating good habits.

I don’t think there is a secret formula that will fit everybody’s needs, but I do believe that we have to start with baby steps. We can’t make broad statements without thinking about the actual process that it takes to get to the end goal. Although we are already into the new year it does not mean that the time has run out for us to think deeply about what we want the year and the decade to look like and the steps we are going to take to get there. Put little things into place, like reminders (sticky notes are great), surround yourself with the right people and put yourself in environments that will help you succeed.  And yes, this may mean doing things outside of your comfort zone, it may mean saying goodbye to some and hello to others and it may mean stepping into the unknown. But isn’t that so exciting? In this new year and new decade you can rewrite the script, the only thing that can make it truly epic is you.

There will be things that will be outside our control, we will have awesome moments, hard moments and mundane moments. But you are going to be the constant through it all. Start small, create good habits and execute.

With Love,

Cree

Year End Reflections

I can say without a doubt that this decade has been the most transformative for me. In 2010, upon leaving a very toxic relationship I could not have imagined that this would be on the other side. I would have walked away a lot sooner! I matured into the woman I always wanted to become and I can only give all glory to God for it. He changed my life from the inside out.  The lessons I learned in this season were fully applied this year and it was amazing to see the reality of my growth.  It was the culmination of the work that God had been doing in me and preparation for my next steps.

One of the greatest outgrowths of my transformation was this blog. Taking this step was not only a step of faith but it was a step toward my most authentic self. Commingling my faith, career and my love of fashion was something I never thought was possible. This blog helped me to realize that I had yet to touch the service of my dreams, there was so much for me to do and become. This blog is a testament to things to come and a celebration of what is.

But I wasn’t just deep this year, I also had a lot of fun putting looks together.  My favorite fashion staples that I carried throughout the year were Mom Jeans, Oversized Sports Jacket, Dresses paired with tennis shoes, statement T-shirts, floral prints and black as the new black. For some reason I have fallen in love with monochrome black looks, the ultimate in chic. I have always said that if you want a hint into my psyche check out my style.  Below is a compilation of some of my best looks from this year.

I pray that this decade is the one that we walk out our wildest dreams and make our mark on the world around us for good. Happy New Year and Happy New Decade Loves!!

With Love,

Cree

Photos & Editing: Lucretia L. Scruggs

Thumbnail Photo: Julia (@sosweetlychosen)

My Guide to Enjoying the Holidays

Sweater & Tights: H&M Hat: Thrift Boots: Nasty Gal Shades: @Sunnie_Galore

We are only days away from the true start of the holiday season, at least in my book, Thanksgiving.  And this is how I plan to remain sane the entire time.

1.       REST – This one is always big on my list regardless of what time of year it is. But it is very important for me during the holidays to be intentional about my rest.  We can get so caught up in the hype that we forget that we cannot be all things and that our energy is a limited resource. I take my weekend time very seriously. I find ways to be in one place for several hours. Also, I make it my yearly tradition to take off from work the days between Christmas and the New Year just to lay low and get ready for the coming year.  There is nothing like having quiet time to count my blessings, reflect, read and binge watch TV.

2.       Exercise – This year I strived to be more consistent with my working out and it has definitely paid off. I see a change in my body, energy level, and emotional well-being. It has really helped me to remain motivated and positive on my toughest days. Getting through a work out gives me that extra push I need. And I definitely need to stay focused now more than ever, because there are so many food and life distractions. I know that working out will keep me on track. I won’t have to go into the New Year behind but ahead. Working out will not be my new year’s resolution for 2020.

3.       Budget – Although this is third on the list, this is definitely a top priority for me. I take my budgets very seriously, I have an excel spreadsheet to prove it. Every year for the holidays, I give myself a food budget and a gift budget.  I always have a certain amount that I plan to spend on gifts and I stick to it. Starting the new year on E is a no, period. We can’t allow companies to be in the black while we are in the red. Be honest with yourself and others about what you can spend. Like I always tell myself, I am the only one paying my bills. 

4.       Enjoy: stay in the moment – Sometimes I think we often become so excited about the holidays that we forget to experience them. My plan this year is to make sure I stop and take it all in. I am allowing myself to soak in all the love, laughter and time spent with family and friends. This is the one time of the year that we all stop and are intentional about doing these things and I’m not mad at it.

The holidays are definitely my favorite time of year. But it can also be a very exhausting time of year. I hope this guide helps you to think about the things you can put in place to make sure we take this time and can be fully present. Happy Thanksgiving and Happy Holidays Loves!

With Love,

Cree

It May Not Be For You

How many times have you heard 2019 is coming to an end and there is something you need to be doing? Whether it’s setting goals for 2020, being still, or finishing 2019 strong, it’s hard to determine what it is exactly we need to be doing. What if I told you that someone else’s idea should definitely not be what you should be doing. I’m all for gleaning inspiration from social media, but if someone else’s advice does not align with where you are, don’t be afraid to not follow it. 2019 has looked different for each of us, and 2020 will be the same. Follow the path that is right for you.  Please do not get caught up in the hype of the ending of the year and the beginning of a new one. Keep living and flowing in your rhythm.

Dress and Purse: Thrift Shoes: Old

Each of our lives is a beautiful and intricate journey and though there are a lot of commonalities between people there is no one experience that is the same. If I could give any advice it would be to find your own rhythm and stick to it. These days everyone is an expert about what we should be doing with our lives and it can be overwhelming. You are the only one that has walked in your shoes, trust yourself to know what will work for you. And I know that in itself is not always easy, trusting the God voice inside. But that is another blog post for another day. What is important today is not getting lost in the fray. For some it will be being still, for another it will be setting goals and another letting go. It is one thing to move outside of your comfort zone and another to do something outside of the flow of your life. Some things are just not going to be for you.

We have to learn to be okay with not assimilating into group think just because something seems to be popular.  People are successful long term because they learn how to follow their own instinct. Like I said there is nothing wrong with being inspired, we all need that push every now and then. But make sure the inspiration is speaking to where you are. Where am I you ask? I am finishing 2019 strong and allowing God’s process to prepare me for 2020. I’m taking it one day at a time, listening to and for God’s voice and finding my new rhythm. God is changing my pace and it has caused me to be a little off-center but I’m learning my new beat. It’s scary and exciting all at the same time. This is where I am, be okay with where you are.

With Love,

Cree

Photos & Editing: Lucretia L. Scruggs

How I Became the Intellectual Wild Child

Headwrap: The Wrap Life Sweatshirt: Zara Jeans: American Eagle Boyfriend Jeans Shoes: Lilly’s Kloset (2018) Necklace: H&M(2018)

For those who don’t know my story, this fashion and blogging thing was not on your girl’s radar at all. I have always loved fashion but I never understood it as a job choice for me, it wasn’t something that I thought I could actually pursue. It seemed so far away from my reality as a kid. It’s so funny to look back on myself as a kid and wonder why I didn’t see it when there were so many signs that I had a healthy creative side. But the smart side of me would be what I would come to rely on as my gateway to the future I thought I wanted. When I was growing up following your passion and understanding purpose wasn’t exactly a thing. The way I saw my future was very much like coloring in the lines. All my late 70’s and 80’s babies know exactly what I mean. I didn’t exactly think about whether my choice would bring me joy or if I would actually enjoy it. I just knew that I was intelligent, made good grades and wanted to be successful. A law career ain’t bad if you ask me, right?

To be honest, no, it’s not bad. But… Don’t get me wrong I wouldn’t trade this experience for the world. I have lived a good life as an attorney but there have always been those moments when I’ve asked myself is this enough, I want more. And within the last several years I realized that it wasn’t, that my more involved that creative side that I had neglected to nurture. Oh what to do, what to do? I listened. I listened to the voice inside that led me to me. The me that I had always longed to be, but didn’t dare become because I was so accustomed to coloring within the lines. It freed me in a way that I could never describe. I found purpose and calling when I stopped worrying about what I should be and became what God created me to be.

I absolutely love anything fashion and beauty. I have always been an advocate for looking and feeling your best from the inside out. I don’t think that clothes and makeup are frivolous because in so many ways they tell our story. Especially when we become adults and have more agency over the story we want to tell. Combined with my love for God, thought and writing I am in heaven. To be able to combine all three in this lovely way brings me so much joy. The joy that I would not have if I had not moved out of my comfort zone. And if you were wondering that’s how this lawyer became the Intellect in Heels.

I refuse to allow other people’s perception of who they think I should become overwhelm my sense of self or purpose. I am all of these things and it’s great. Nope, I don’t fit the mold and I love it. To be honest I don’t think there is a mold for any of us. When we are born we are one of a kind and multifaceted. The key is that I learned to embrace the understanding, that I am more than one thing and in my lifetime I can be more than one thing. I won’t lie this journey is scary and there are a lot of unknowns but the joy I feel outweighs the fear. The deeper I get, the more I know I can’t turn back.

Question: what does that more look like for you?  Let me know in the comments or on Instagram.

With Love,

Cree

Photos & Editing: Lucretia L.Scruggs

Are You Ready for the Glow Up?

Are You Ready for the Glow Up?

Question for all the Dreamers like me: are you ready for what comes with the realization of your dreams? Are you actually preparing yourself for your dream becoming reality? These are questions that I ask myself. Because I understand that realizing my dream does not mean that it’s smooth sailing from here on out. There is a mantle of responsibility that comes with every dream that comes true. Are you ready?

Top & Skirt: Zara; Shoes: Doc Martens ; Hat: Thrift; Heels: Too Old to Tell

I know that social media makes success look super fun. But like the Notorious Big said “More money, more problems.” Money may make certain aspects of your life easier but it doesn’t solve every problem. My mission is that with any amount of outward success that I obtain is rooted in my connection to God. That outward success does not eclipse who made it all possible, God. The blessing cannot outweigh the one who blesses, period.  So my prayer is not only Lord I want to realize certain aspirations but Lord I want to become the person that you can trust with the blessing.

I understand that my life is not just about me but has a deeper and bigger purpose than getting what I want. A blessing for me should extend beyond my life into the lives of those that are connected to me. The resources that my blessings create are not for me alone. Ha, I know you thought I was going to go into this whole spiel about being prepared for what’s next being all about you. To me the value of greatness is how that greatness serves someone else and how it impacts someone else’s life. Being a boss is to understand how to serve others not lord your power over others. The greatest use of power is shown in the example of Jesus…grace. Do I want to be successful and reach the fullness of my potential? Do I want to have financial freedom? The answer to all of these questions is yes.  But these blessings for me will not rest in me alone. My win is another person’s win. My win is opening up doors and opportunities for someone else. My win is so I can lift another person up.  We all have benefitted from someone else extending themselves for us.

There’s also this thing called imposter syndrome that plagues those that reach certain levels of success. In order to remain successful in whatever your sphere is, you have to believe that you belong in the rooms and at the tables. You have to be confident in your gift, talents, hard work and skills. You have to believe that your voice matters.  That you are in that room for a purpose and no one can do it like you can. If you don’t make room for yourself, then you leave a void for the person who has to come after you. When that voice of doubt and fear rears its ugly head you have to crush it. Because believe me it will try to get through, but you have to have enough ammo to shut it down. You have to know that what is for you is for you. Don’t talk yourself out of your greatness either.

One last thing, you have to be and remain connected to the right people. These are people who understand your vision and purpose and hold you accountable to it. Success comes with the good and bad. Of course people are going to want to be around those that they perceive as winning. Those people who want to hang on to the glimmer of success and not the hard work behind it. Beware of those people. Pray for friendships and connections that are God sent and genuine. We all need people who really care about us and care about helping us to execute the dream.

Sooo are you really ready for the glow up?

With Love,

Cree

Photos & Editing By” Lucretia L. Scruggs

Change Has No Expiration

I grew up during a time where it was expected for you to pick a vocation and stick with it for the rest of the life of your career. So when I started falling out of love with the direction of my career I was a little perplexed. I worked really hard to become an attorney, my student loans will agree. But for some reason it wasn’t enough. I don’t dislike being a lawyer, it’s just not completely fulfilling. There is an ever growing disconnect between who I am and the industry I work in.

Dress: Zara; Biker Shorts: Boohoo; Boots: Doc Martens

Would I turn back the hands of time?  No. I am grateful for my journey because without it I wouldn’t be who I am today. I have learned valuable lessons. But having to pivot away from a comfort zone was not simple mentally and practically either. The hardest part was divorcing who I thought I was going to be and embracing who I am meant to be now. And the funny thing is that may change again. I am learning to be flexible and open about where my purpose takes me. As you might recall on my New year’s Eve Blog Post, my word for the year is multidimensional. I never want to be defined by just one thing or one role I play in my life. There is so much more to me and my story.

But when did I have the aha moment? It was at the tender age of 32 lol and I didn’t start really acting on it until I was 34 years old. I was well into my 30’s before all the light bulbs went off. But, I didn’t let my age scare me away from progress. At this point I am almost out of my 30’s but I am even more fearless. I am just getting started and I will not allow societal pressures about age define the heights that I can reach in my purpose. I needed my story to unfold exactly as it did for me to be prepared for what God has for me. There is no age limit or criteria for change. As long as you are breathing you can change your mind and allow God to do a new thing in you. Growth and evolution do not end at a certain age. I don’t ever want to stop growing and living out my potential.

I encourage you to ask yourself important questions about who you are and the direction of your life. Do you have a passion that you have ignored as impossible or told yourself that it was too late to explore? Do you have gifts that you haven’t intentionally pursued? Don’t talk yourself out of a more fulfilling life because of a narrow minded perspective of age or I false expectations about when a thing should be achieved. Love yourself enough to allow yourself to dream of more possibilities, to have a childlike faith of who you can become.

With Love,

Cree

The Way Isn’t Always Clear

Warning to all those who have to have it all figured out, I’m not saying don’t have goals I’m just saying be flexible. A part of the process is not having the answer.

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It took me a long time to learn this lesson, to get comfortable with being uncomfortable, to allow spirit to lead the way. I will admit I love taking in information and learning new things. I always have some nuanced piece of information at my disposal lol. But contrary to popular belief I don’t have to know it all or have all of the answers, for every moment of the day or every moment of my life. And you don’t have to all the answers either.

But I used to think that I had to have all the answers for the direction of my life. I had to have answers for the trajectory of my career, my next move and how I was going to get there. But having all the answers doesn’t leave room for God’s most amazing surprises or His real guidance. When you have the answers you fail to listen to the rhythm of your life, the Holy Spirit or your instincts.  When you have all the answers you miss out on the real opportunities to become. The goal is not to have it all figured out, the goal is to let God develop you into being the best version of yourself.

It used to make me so uncomfortable when someone would ask me a question about how something in my life was going to unfold that I didn’t have an answer for. Now I just take it in stride, I simply reply I don’t know. The month of July was really hard for me because I really felt like I was in the black hole of not knowing. Nothing that was/is happening makes sense and all the dots aren’t readily connecting. But I had to surrender my need to know, for trusting the ultimate plan of God. We don’t always get the complete story until after we’ve lived through it.  Living through it makes you stronger, better and more equipped to handle the responsibility of the lane that God has given you.

The one thing I do know is that God is good and has never failed me. Will I be super happy when this all makes sense…yes, of course and I am quite human. But I know that it’s not in vain and if I knew everything about the future I would probably screw it up. So I will trust God and the process. So no I don’t have all the answers but the answers are in good hands. So if you’re like me and life doesn’t make complete sense don’t feel pressure to make something up, saying I don’t know opens up a world of possibilities.

With Love,

Cree

Photos & Editing by: Lucretia L. Scruggs

Don't Do It For The Likes

I know that most of you have probably heard the question what is your why, in reference to understanding your purpose. But my first question would be what is your motive? What is the catalyst behind why you are pursuing something or a direction in life? If it is to get approval or get likes whether on or outside social media sorry to say you may not last too long.

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Pursuing a career, a dream takes a lot of work and if your motive is wrong it won’t be enough to sustain you through the tough seasons. Life is a series of ebbs and flows. No wins come without process. In order to survive you have to be motivated by more than people approval. Ummm, because in case you didn’t know not everyone is going to get you or understand your journey. Get used to it. People can be a little fickle, you will not be able to satisfy everyone. You have to be motivated by something deeper than people’s applause because if your identity is tied to that you won’t be a happy person.

And sometimes God holds the applause just for that reason, so that we don’t get caught up in our own hype. God definitely knows how to keep us humble. I am truly grateful for that, because it reminds me that I am not in this alone and He is ultimately in control. Doing this blog thing is no easy feat especially when you are not well known. It is definitely a crawl before you walk situation. But I wouldn’t trade it for the world, because I am learning as I go and also growing along the way. I want this to be authentic for you and for me. I will not despise my small beginning. Pretending to be something that I am not has never been my thing. I would rather have one like and somebody get something from what I am saying, than get a thousand likes for living a lie. Because what is done in the dark will come to light. A lie can only sustain you for so long. I want you all to see the real deal, not only because it’s real to me but so that others will know that it is possible. You might have to start small but you will win.

I am nowhere near where I want to be. I definitely want to reach more women and build my community. But I want that to be authentic because I don’t do this for the likes I do this so that lives can be touched and so that you can be inspired. Whether it be by the words I say or the clothes I wear or a combination of both. I do this from the heart. I hope in all your endeavors you do the same. Make sure you do what you do because it is true to who you are.

With Love,

Cree

Photos and Editing: Lucretia L. Scruggs

What About Your Friends?

I have found myself having conversations about adult friendships of late and the question is always why is it so hard to make friends as an adult? I mean really good friends.  I want my girl tribe as much as anyone else. I think I’m pretty friendly with a good attitude. But I think as an adult it goes a little deeper than that. Basically, because I just don’t want to hang out with anybody, I want purpose mates:  friends who are down for the long haul of my journey, friends that will hold me accountable and friends who will make me better. And from the conversations I have had I’m not the only one with this dilemma.

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I think a part of the problem is thinking that adult friendships are going to be as easy as they were when we were kids. I’ve thought a lot about this and a lot of our childhood friendships were born out of proximity. We’re in the same neighborhood, we were in the same class, and after all of that contact we are bound to become friends with someone and have something in common with them. But as adults, we are free to move about the country, literally, and adulting is a beast. We don’t have the luxury of childhood innocence and free time. If you work for Corporate America like your girl, there are no summers off. So life keeps moving. Therefore, making friends is a true investment of time and energy. And if you are like me my time and energy is precious to me. I have no more time to waste on toxic people or relationships. But yet, I’m still willing to stick my neck out because no matter how brave or strong we are this life was not set up to be done alone.

And as I’m sticking my neck out I’m thinking inwardly as well. I’m observing my own energy and making sure that I am putting out what I want in return. We are often quick to talk about what type of person we want our friends to be without reflecting on whether we are the person we want them to be. I not only want a good friend but I want to be a good friend. Friendship is about reciprocity on all fronts. It reminds me of the saying do unto others as you want them to do to you. You can’t attract good friends without being a good friend.

I’ve also learned that there are levels to friendships and it is good to qualify what type of friend that particular person is. I had a hard time before I really learned how to qualify my friendships. For me it used to be all or nothing, but yea that just doesn’t work. I understand now that not everyone is going to be your bff or inner circle friend. But that does not mean they don’t have purpose. Some friends are good hang out buddies, or work buddies or catch up everyone once in a while like you just saw each other yesterday buddies. And they all have a unique part to play in our lives, but it is important that we understand that so we adjust our expectations accordingly. Don’t be trying to make a hang out buddie a bff, if that’s not their place. Cause you could definitely end up with your feelings hurt, trust me.

Lastly, I’ve also realized that those good inner circle friendships just take time and patience. The secret formula is mostly just time. Meaning time invested and time moving forward. Most good friendships aren’t built overnight. It takes time to figure someone else out and create relationships that benefit everyone. Yes making friends as an adult is much harder but I think it is so well worth it.

Leave a Comment below with any advice you can give about cultivating good friendships.

With Love,

Cree

Photos & Editing: Lucretia Scruggs

Living My Blessed Life

I guess it’s the Miami in me, but I always get a burst of excitement when the weather is hot enough for me to walk outside and the warm air greets me. I have never been fond of the cold. I’m good through Christmas and New Year’s Day and then I’m completely over it. I am definitely a warm weather girl. What the warm weather always reminds me to do is live a little. The cold can be very restrictive, from the clothes we wear to having to be inside because temperatures are so low. During the summer we can go out and play, literally.   

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As the Memorial Day weekend has come upon us, the sounding alarm for summer for those of us who live in the US, I am reminded of this.  We give struggle so much room in our lives. We often talk about our struggles way more than our triumphs, like there is a special badge of honor for the person that struggles the most. Yes, struggle and hardship have a part to play in how our lives are shaped but we can’t stay stuck there. Your life being good is not an indication that something bad is about to happen. Simply accept that life is good. We often miss this because we are always waiting for the ball to drop and to be carried back to our struggles. The loving God I trust and believe in would not give me a life full of sorrow.

I’m writing this from experience. I would pray to God for joy and peace but remain tethered to past hurt and pain. God wasn’t making me stay there I was choosing too. I’ve learned how to reflect on the good in my life and learn from the hard times. I see my life from the perspective that everything in my life is good because even hardships are working for my good. There is a joy I have in life’s process because I have chosen to look at what I am going through in a different light. When I chose joy over pain my life changed. I am a firm believer that we attract the energy we give out. The more joy and peace you pour out the more you receive.

This summer I give myself permission to have fun and to not take myself so seriously. I give myself room to appreciate all that I have been blessed with and the life I have been given. I ask you to do the same.  Take time to reflect on all the things in your life that are good, I assure you happiness is around the corner. It’s your choice.

With Love,

Cree

Pictures and Editing by: Lucretia L. Scruggs

Blast From the Past

Here’s the story of a young woman who was in a very toxic relationship with a young man. After two years of being delusional that young woman decided to leave said young man. She went on to apply the lessons learned and figure out and walk in her purpose. She discovered the greatness that resided inside of her and ran with it. That young woman is me.

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After many years of having no contact whatsoever with my ex and making sure that boundaries were clear, a little over a week ago he decided to try to reach out via Facebook messenger. The nice in me almost responded. But then I realized that I was under no obligation to respond. I have definitely moved on with my life. I am not angry or harboring resentment. I have simply just moved on. So I deleted the message and did not respond. I felt so empowered afterward because I made a decision based on what was best for me and not because I was worried about how he would feel.   

As women we often feel guilty for not being nice. Why is that? I think because we are raised to believe that girls are made up of sugar and spice and everything nice. Ummm nope…now that I resent! We have the power of choice and to make decisions that are for our greater well-being. We do not have to ignore our feelings in order for the world to keep going around. Our feelings and peace of mind matter. I will admit I did have a conversation with myself about my decision and guilt tried to creep in. Like maybe he was just trying to be nice. But I realized it didn’t matter. I had made it very clear that I didn’t want contact and that I had moved on. So after reasoning through my feelings, your girl is good.

The past tried to creep in and try to take me back to who I used to be. But that girl no longer lives here. And I don’t have to apologize for the woman that I became, sorry not sorry. One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is to stop apologizing for being whole. The enemy will always try to take us back to brokenness in order to make us feel unworthy but I had to shut him down real quick. It took me a while to forgive myself for even being in that relationship, this is true. But I’m so good now and I made it out and through. So take it from me, don’t let anything or anyone steal your joy. Always remember that you always have the power of choice and the power to say no to the people and the things that no longer serve you or your purpose. “Tell’em boy bye,” Beyonce’

With Love,

Cree

Photos and Editing by: Lucretia L. Scruggs